Every Christmas, I ask for a week off to visit my family.
And every Christmas, my boss says no.
It has become a quiet ritual—me submitting the request with a little hope, him rejecting it with a short explanation about “staffing needs” or “fairness.” I stopped arguing years ago. I learned to swallow my disappointment and tell my family, once again, that I wouldn’t make it home.
This year, I tried to do everything right.
I sent my request in June—six full months in advance. I documented it. I followed up politely. I even offered to cover extra shifts before and after the holidays if it helped.
Last week, the schedule was posted.
Four of my coworkers were approved for Christmas vacation.
I wasn’t one of them.
When I asked my boss why, he didn’t hesitate.
“You should be a team player,” he said. “You don’t have kids. The others do. You can be flexible.”
I smiled.
I nodded.
And I walked away.
I didn’t argue. I didn’t raise my voice. I didn’t explain that my parents were getting older, that my mom’s health wasn’t what it used to be, or that Christmas was the only time my entire family tried to be together.
I just walked away.
That night, something inside me shifted.
I went home and opened my laptop—not angrily, not impulsively, but calmly. Deliberately. I updated my résumé for the first time in years. I applied to three positions before midnight. By the end of the week, I had sent out eleven applications.
Two weeks later, I got an interview.
It was virtual. The hiring manager asked about my experience, my availability, my goals. Then she asked a question I wasn’t expecting:
“What does work-life balance look like to you?”
I hesitated. Then I answered honestly.
“I believe good employees are still human beings. I work hard—but I don’t think work should punish people for having a life.”
She smiled.
Three days later, I received an offer.
Higher pay. Better benefits. Flexible scheduling. And written, guaranteed holiday leave.
I accepted immediately.
Yesterday, I gave my notice.
My boss barely looked up from his computer when I handed him the letter. He skimmed it—then froze.
He looked at me like he was seeing me for the first time.
“You’re… leaving?” he asked.
“Yes.”
“Before Christmas?”
“Yes.”
He frowned. “That’s not very team-oriented.”
I smiled—the same calm smile I’d perfected over the years.
“I guess I finally realized the team never included me.”
He didn’t respond.
As I turned to leave, he said, “So… what are you doing for the holidays?”
I paused at the door.
“I’m going home,” I said.
This year, I’ll be there when the tree goes up. I’ll hear my dad’s stories for the hundredth time. I’ll help my mom in the kitchen. I’ll sit on the couch with my siblings and laugh like no time has passed.
And for the first time in a long time, I won’t feel guilty for choosing myself.
Because being a “team player” should never mean giving up your humanity.
And anyone who tells you otherwise was never on your side to begin with.
